Tell me what you want!

What do we want in sex? Do we dare to talk about our most secret fantasies? Is it possible to get what we want? At all: what do our desires reveal about us, and why is it important for us to understand them? And how are the sexual fantasies of men and women different? American social psychologist Justin J. Lehmiller has conducted extensive research in the field of sexual fantasies in recent years to find answers to these questions. Tell me what you want! his book explores the world of human sexuality with unparalleled secrecy. Not only does it provide an insight into the nature of our own sexual desires, but we can also understand why our partner’s desires are so different from ours. Lehmiller says many times we don’t dare talk about our desires because we think they’re abnormal, and that kind of repression then affects our sex lives as well. The author therefore urges us to break down the walls of anxiety and shame within ourselves, to dare to speak boldly about our sexual fantasies, and to view them as an integral part of our sex lives. It also provides clues as to when, why and how it is worth living and making our fantasies come true at all. Lehmiller believes that a better understanding of the nature and diversity of our desires and the psychological background behind them can do a lot to get rid of our anxiety and shame, and thus make our sex lives, marriages and relationships richer. Lehmiller's science-based, positive-sounding, intelligent book breaks the toxic silence of covert sexual fantasies. Following your advice, we can do a lot for our sex lives, our relationships, and our acceptance of ourselves. JUSTIN LEHMILLER is a social psychologist at the Kinsey Institute. A recognized lecturer, he has received three faculty awards at Harvard University, where he has worked for many years. His blog Sex and Psychology is extremely popular. His writings appear regularly in columns of renowned publications, including New York Magazine, VICE, Playboy, and Psychology Today. His book, The Psychology of Human Sexuality, is used as a university aid in many countries around the world.