Does it decide in your head?

"It's up to you!" - they say. We may agree with this, but it is also possible that this sentence has caused us some irritation, we have heard it so many times in recent years that it is enough to "think positively", and that alone will make things go well. Life is certainly not that simple, and if we have experienced this ourselves a few times, we can accept similar statements with reservations. At the same time, it is now a proven fact that our mental attitudes do have a significant impact on our performance, well-being, health, and even our human relationships. For example, in elite sports, above a certain level, it really decides in almost every head, in a strong field, victory or defeat already depends largely on mental state and readiness. Even in the world of healing, it is evident that what we expect from a particular agent or procedure greatly influences the effect. Thoroughly documented cases demonstrate how impressive self-healing forces can awaken in the body in the wake of hopeful thoughts, faith in recovery, and positive expectations. But often the fate of our relationships also stands or falls on whether we put enough weight on everything that is in our hands (i.e., in our heads): our values, our principles, our beliefs, common sense, strategy. For someone who decides only on the basis of their ever-changing feelings, it will be very difficult to run and maintain their relationships well. So if not everything, but many things will definitely be decided in your head. That is why it is very useful for us to learn how to shape our thoughts, our mental attitudes, so that they help us as much as possible, not hinder us in our lives.